Thursday, October 17, 2019

Grace at Home No. 354


As I'm writing this, the temperature here in Durham, North Carolina is in the low 60's. I said last week that Autumn had finally arrived, and now I actually believe it.

I'm so glad you're here for the Grace at Home party, and I hope that you're experiencing beautiful Fall temperatures, too. Grace at Home is a weekly party where we celebrate all the ways we make our homes places of grace.

Here are some links from last week's party I thought you might enjoy.

If you're still on the hunt for some Autumn decor inspiration, check out the gorgeous muted colors at Jamie's house at So Much Better with Age.


If you have small children who are eagerly awaiting trick-or-treating, you'll love this Halloween countdown calendar from Chas at Chas' Crazy Creations.


On a practical note, Salvage Sister and Mister eshow us how to make wool dryer balls. I want to make some of these for myself!
Looking for a yummy new treat? Check out these Praline Brownies from Marieliz at Cocina de Panay in Singapura.


Are you or is someone you love struggling with fear? If so, you'll be grateful for these words from Dr. Michelle Bengtson: Five Truths to Defeat Fear. So good!


As for me, I dig into the journey of finding freedom from comparison. I'd love to know what you think!

Thank you to everyone who joined last week's party! Now for this week's link-up. Here at the Grace at Home party, I invite you to link posts about
  • DIY projects
  • decorating
  • recipes
  • hospitality
  • homemaking tips
  • parenting
  • marriage
  • faith
  • self-care
  • soul care
Whatever you do to make your home a place of grace, I'd like to hear about it.  Here's what I ask of you.  Please include the permalink to your post, not your blog's home page.  Please let people know that you've linked up.  No more than three posts per person, please.  Note that if you link a post here, you are giving me permission to share your post, including a photo.  And visit at least one of the other party participants--that's what really makes it a party!

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Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Looking for Freedom from Comparison


I've lost count of how many years I've struggled with constantly comparing myself with other people. I'm not certain about this—I'd have to do a thorough comparison to be positive—but I'm pretty sure that I've contended with comparison more than any other woman in North America, perhaps the world.

Maybe I could be the winner of a comparison contest. Maybe this is the one way I could win at the comparison game.

Or maybe not.


For quite awhile now, I've known that constantly comparing myself with others is not a good idea. So I've spent a lot of time looking for wisdom about how to overcome the problem. I've found that well-meaning teachers sometimes addressed the topic, but their advice usually ran along these lines:

"You shouldn't compare yourself to others, for you never know the truth about anyone other than yourself."

"You can't compare yourself to anyone else, for you are one of a kind."

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."

"You are God's creation, and God made you incomparable."

"People are like snowflakes; no two are exactly alike. So you can't compare yourself to anyone else!"

All this advise might be wise and true, I know. Sometimes it encouraged me; other times it just irritated me.

The worst part was that it didn't help.

I wanted to stop comparing myself to others, but I couldn't break free from admiring one person's achievements, someone else's personality, another's skills, yet another's relationships. And don't get me started on how I looked at other people's appearances.

Despite my best efforts, I couldn't heed the advice I heard. I was unable to live up to even one of those catchy slogans. I was haunted by the admirable attributes of other people, certain that I could never measure up. No matter how well-intentioned the teaching or pithy the advice, I found that most of didn't help me change my thoughts, feelings, or actions. I might listen to a speech or read an article and feel inspired, but in no time I'd slip right back into my old habit of constant comparison.


It was as if I was lost in a maze or stuck in a steel trap of comparison. The more I struggled to free myself, the tighter the jaws of the trap clenched.

That's the bad news.

The good news is that, by the grace of God and the help of a lot of His people, I've learned that there is a way to break free.

But it's not an easy way. There's no instant cure, at least not that I've found. No catchy slogan. No quick fix.

But there is a way, I believe, and I've written a book about it. Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison. It releases on Tuesday, October 22. You can read all about it here.

But you know what? Of all the ways that I've been tempted to compare myself with others, perhaps none is so great as the temptation to compare myself with other writers. If you follow me on Instagram, you might have seen this photo of me with my friend Gem Fadling, who released a book from the same publisher (InterVarsity Press) just last month.


For instance, if I let myself, I can get completely wrapped up in the fact that Gem's book is a beautiful hardcover edition, while mine is a lowly paperback. And that's just the first of a thousand comparisons I could make.

The irony is not lost on me that I've written a book about finding freedom from comparison and in so doing have gained a new way to compare myself to others. 

Here's something I've learned: the temptation to compare will never be gone. But I don't have to fall into the trap. I can choose to embrace the opportunity for community rather than give into the isolation that comparison brings.

God, who is a relationship in His own being, designed His image-bearers for relationship. We were designed for relationship because we were designed by relationship. 


I believe that no matter what we're doing—writing a book, practicing a profession, keeping a home, rearing our children, whatever—the cure for comparison is community. There is a way out of the comparison trap—and it leads into the loving heart of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Do you ever find yourself stuck in the trap of comparison? I'd love to hear about it!

Thursday, October 10, 2019

Grace at Home No. 353


Hallelujah! It's finally Autumn in North Carolina!

The leaves haven't started turning beautiful colors yet, but the temperatures have finally dropped out of the 90's, and all of us are breathing a sigh of relief. What's it like in your neck of the woods?

I'm so grateful you're here for this week's Grace at Home party, where we celebrate all the ways we make our homes places of grace.

Now that Autumn has finally arrived, I'm motivated to do some decorating to welcome the season, so I was inspired by a number of links from last week. I hope they inspire you, too!

Check out Paula at Sweet Pea for vintage decorating ideas. Paula's a master at mixing vintage pieces into her decor.

Pam at Busy Lifestyle Gal created this darling scarecrow out of a plain piece of plywood--and she shares a complete tutorial for making your own.


Kippi from Kippi at Home made this darling wreath from an embroidery hoop, and she shares a tutorial for making it.


Need a simple Fall project? Check out these darling decorated jars from Linda at Mason Jar Crafts. She shares her easy technique for painting the little pumpkins.

If you're thinking ahead to how you might like to set your table for Thanksgiving, check out this post from Fabby at Fabby's Living. Such a beautiful, welcoming tablescape!


Thank you to everyone who joined last week's party! Now for this week's link-up. Here at the Grace at Home party, I invite you to link posts about
  • DIY projects
  • decorating
  • recipes
  • hospitality
  • homemaking tips
  • parenting
  • marriage
  • faith
  • self-care
  • soul care
Whatever you do to make your home a place of grace, I'd like to hear about it.  Here's what I ask of you.  Please include the permalink to your post, not your blog's home page.  Please let people know that you've linked up.  No more than three posts per person, please.  Note that if you link a post here, you are giving me permission to share your post, including a photo.  And visit at least one of the other party participants--that's what really makes it a party!
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Thursday, October 3, 2019

Grace at Home No. 352


I'm willing to bet you've seen some pictures lately that proclaim:

"I'm so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers."

Anne Shirley, L.M. Montgomery's heroine of the Anne of Green Gables books, made that statement, and I used to agree with her. . . until the weather betrayed us into being in the high 90's in October! Ugh! Yes, it's October now, but it's as hot as August here. I surely hope it's prettier in your neck of the woods.

And in spite of the weather, I'm glad you're here for the Grace at Home party, where we celebrate all the ways we make our homes places of grace. Here are some links from last week's party I think you'll enjoy. Even if I can't have the cool, crisp temperatures of Autumn, I can enjoy your Fall projects!

Looking for some Fall inspiration for your front porch? Check out what Jennifer from The Everyday Farmhouse has been up to. See this beautiful Fall throw? She made it for less than $10!


If you need a new Fall wreath for your front door, you'll want to check out this one from Julie at My Wee Abode. She provides a simple tutorial to make your own.


If you're wishing you could add some fallish touches all over your house, Shelley from Calypso in the Country shows the way.


Need to set a beautiful table this Fall? Carol from Comfort Spring Station shows you how to make these gorgeous wood chargers that will look great at your place settings.


If you're like me, you love finding new pumpkin recipes. Chantal from Crystal and Co. provides one I've never seen before: Pumpkin Spice Snickerdoodles! Don't these look yummy?


And if you need some good food for thought today, check out "Do You Deserve More?" from Angie at Keeping the Tie that Binds.


Thank you to everyone who joined last week's party! Now for this week's link-up. Here at the Grace at Home party, I invite you to link posts about
  • DIY projects
  • decorating
  • recipes
  • hospitality
  • homemaking tips
  • parenting
  • marriage
  • faith
  • self-care
  • soul care
Whatever you do to make your home a place of grace, I'd like to hear about it.  Here's what I ask of you.  Please include the permalink to your post, not your blog's home page.  Please let people know that you've linked up.  No more than three posts per person, please.  Note that if you link a post here, you are giving me permission to share your post, including a photo.  And visit at least one of the other party participants--that's what really makes it a party!

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Thursday, September 26, 2019

Grace at Home No. 351


Hi, friends! Happy Autumn! Welcome to the Grace at Home party, where we celebrate all the ways we make our homes places of grace.

I hope you're having some lovely Fall weather in your neck of the woods. It's pretty hot here in North Carolina, but we've had some fallish days. . . which makes me really anticipate the cool, crisp Autumn weather to come.

Here are some highlight's from last week's party I thought you'd enjoy.

Pam from Busy Lifestyle Gal created a darling sign for her front entry. Do you need some new Fall decor? Pam wrote a detailed tutorial for making this sign!


Want inspiration for fun Fall decor that's not traditional Fall colors? You'll love seeing what Andrea from Living on Cloud Nine has done in her house.


I've been wanting to find more recipes for the Instant Pot, so I was glad to see this recipe for Instant Pot Roast from Joy at Artful Homemaking. (My pot roast recipe uses hours of oven time--I'm eager to try this way!)


If you or a loved one struggles with anxiety, you'll be glad to know there's a new resource from Dr. Michelle Bengtson. Read all about Breaking Anxiety's Grip: How to Reclaim the Peace God Promises here!


As for me, I'm busy this week looking for people to serve on the Launch Team for my upcoming book! I would love for some of y'all to participate. 



Thank you to everyone who joined last week's party! Now for this week's link-up. Here at the Grace at Home party, I invite you to link posts about
  • DIY projects
  • decorating
  • recipes
  • hospitality
  • homemaking tips
  • parenting
  • marriage
  • faith
  • self-care
  • soul care
Whatever you do to make your home a place of grace, I'd like to hear about it.  Here's what I ask of you.  Please include the permalink to your post, not your blog's home page.  Please let people know that you've linked up.  No more than three posts per person, please.  Note that if you link a post here, you are giving me permission to share your post, including a photo.  And visit at least one of the other party participants--that's what really makes it a party!

You are invited to the Inlinkz link party!
Click here to enter


Monday, September 23, 2019

I need your help!


Friends, I've been here at Imparting Grace for many years. During that time y'all have helped me with so many things—you've offered encouragement, advice, prayers, even challenges when I needed them.

Today I'm asking for a different kind of help.


If you've spent any time here in the past couple of years, you know that I've written a book for InterVarsity Press. Well, it's now time for Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison to launch into the world!


I confess that I'm really excited about this book launch, and also slightly terrified. But one thing I know absolutely for sure: I can't do it alone. So today I'm asking if you would be willing to help me.

This week I am putting together a "Launch Team." (Doesn't that sound like something from the Space Age?) It's nothing formal or fancy—it's just a group of people who are willing to go ahead and read my book and share it with others. The one requirement for membership is that you have a Facebook account, simply because a closed Facebook group will be where we meet. For the most part, I'll be asking Launch Team members to do little things like liking and sharing posts on social media. And I hope members will post an honest review the book if they can.

If you'd like to know why I wrote this book, watch this little video:



I struggled with comparison long, long before social media, so by the time Facebook and Instagram and Pinterest came along, I was badly in need of help. I'm so grateful that I found it, and I'm thrilled to get to share the message.

If you'd like to read more about the book, including the table of contents and endorsements, you can visit the InterVarsity Press website here. You can even read the whole first chapter!

Would you be interested in serving on the Launch Team? If so, please leave a comment here or email me (richellap (at) gmail (dot) com). I can give you more information or sign you up!